Talking about infertility is a funny thing.
It’s a hard combination of intimacy and candidness. As a blogger, I’ve opened up a little about our unique process and my emotions that come with it, but I don’t talk about everything. I know women who are much more open and share every part of their cycle. And I know women who didn’t/don’t talk about their fertility at all.
There really isn’t a right or wrong way to handle the subject. It’s not like the RE hands you a carefully outlined rulebook with a color-coded list of contacts.
After an incident earlier this year with certain family, I have second-guessed what I should and shouldn’t write on my blog about trying to get pregnant. I don’t always notice when people have heard enough of it; I don’t want to sound whiney or drive people crazy with constant talk of hormones, testing, and babies.
But keeping quiet doesn’t make the baby-crazy go away. It’s simply pointless to try to pretend it’s not a big deal, when infertility can be all-consuming. I think about it every. single. day.
The solution for me has been finding a place where I can let my baby-crazy out: where I can be honest, open, and share as much tmi as I need to without worrying about freaking out my entire family.
One of my favorite resources in this first year of infertility has been TTCcommunity.com. Not only is it run by one of the sweetest, kindest, person (and blogger!) you’ll ever meet, it’s a safe haven.
The best thing about TTCcommunity is the members. Being able to talk to other women who are going through the same emotional, physical, spiritual, and financial rollercoaster as you is the best sanity saver when it comes to fertility. Plus, since we’re all focused on the same goal (of successful pregnancies and healthy, happy babies), there’s less viciousness than on other women-oriented forums.
Where did/do you talk about your fertility? Friends, family, websites?
*This post was written as part of a conference sponsorship requirement. While I have been compensated, I would write about TTCcommunity any day of the week, because I truly adore the site’s founder, Maria, and the work she does to help other women succeed in their fertility goals.